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Unexpected Good News

It’s been a very busy time in our part of the world.  I’m enjoying teaching college part-time, but I’m covering content that I’ve never taught before, so it’s requiring a lot of preparation–which is hard to do with a four-year-old and a nineteen-month-old at home!  Coffee shops are my friend.

The future is still hard to discern, but a few things have come sharply into focus recently.  We have found out that we will be the parents of a new baby late next spring.  Now, our current low-income, homeless state isn’t one in which we expected to carry on with the family-increasing business.  In fact, we had thought that we had closed up shop, and we sold all of our infant things (car seat, changing table, toys, clothes) to a poor family for $20 when we moved last May.  Oops!  And I’ll go ahead and tear up the Ph.D. applications sitting on the table.  Maybe someday, but now we don’t have the luxury of letting me go much longer without a job.  The longer I stay out of ministry, the less interest I have in going back into it, so I need to find something more lucrative than college adjunct (which is almost anything, really), and that isn’t ministry but can be done without too much additional training.  In the spring I’ll do alternative teaching certification through the regional educational service center and see if I can find a public school job.  I always considered that a possibility, and from what I hear there are a lot of elementary principals who would like more men on staff.  I certainly don’t mind working with the little ones–I have a fair amount of first-hand experience now.  But high school’s fine, too.  Just not, dear Lord, middle school.  My wife loves 11 and 12 year olds, but I’d much rather have the ones who are definitely little or definitely teens.  Someone else can help them navigate the initial shifts of early puberty.  I’ve got my hands full managing my own personal transitions right now.

Speaking of which, I’m just delighted about this upcoming kiddo.  I really always wanted three, but we had decided that stopping at two was the responsible choice given all that’s gone on (and the fact that I’ll be 39 next year!) But in spite of being conscientious about taking precautions, I was elated the moment we discovered that the barriers had been breached.  I assume the new baby will be an excellent swimmer.  It’s nice to have to do the irresponsible thing for a change.  I imagine that we’ll find a way to continue providing food and shelter for the kids.

When we found out that baby number two was going to be a boy, I was disappointed.  I thought I didn’t care either way, but I realized that I was enjoying my daughter so much it was hard not to want another little girl.  Now that I have both a boy and a girl who constantly delight me, I think I really, genuinely don’t care what number three is.  (Except we do have a girl’s name we really like that has gone unused….)

And step by step, into the future we go, the five of us.

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Top Ten Reasons Why Men Should Not Be Ordained

I’ve seen this in several places around the internet.  No idea where it originally came from.

10. A man’s place is in the army.

9. For men who have children, their duties might distract them from the responsibilities of being a parent.

8. Their physical build indicates that men are more suited to tasks such as chopping down trees and wrestling mountain lions. It would be “unnatural” for them to do other forms of work.

7. Man was created before woman. It is therefore obvious that man was a prototype. Thus, they represent an experiment, rather than the crowning achievement of creation.

6. Men are too emotional to be priests or pastors. This is easily demonstrated by their conduct at football games and watching basketball tournaments.

5. Some men are handsome; they will distract women worshipers.

4. To be ordained pastor is to nurture the congregation. But this is not a traditional male role. Rather, throughout history, women have been considered to be not only more skilled than men at nurturing, but also more frequently attracted to it. This makes them the obvious choice for ordination.

3. Men are overly prone to violence. No really manly man wants to settle disputes by any means other than by fighting about it. Thus, they would be poor role models, as well as being dangerously unstable in positions of leadership.

2. Men can still be involved in church activities, even without being ordained. They can sweep paths, repair the church roof, and maybe even lead the singing on Father’s Day. By confining themselves to such traditional male roles, they can still be vitally important in the life of the Church.

1. In the New Testament account, the person who betrayed Jesus was a man. Thus, his lack of faith and ensuing punishment stands as a symbol of the subordinated position that all men should take.

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